Indlela eya ekubuyiseleni kwimeko yesiqhelo: Ukuzalwa kwakhona koKhenketho

Ngexesha leenyanga ezintathu ezidlulileyo, icandelo lezokhenketho kunye nezokhenketho kwiindawo ezininzi zehlabathi ziye zafikelela esiphelweni. Kwiinyanga ezintathu kamva sijamelene nomsebenzi omtsha wokusuka kukothuka kwento eyayikho, ukudala umhlaba wento eyakuba yiyo. Ngoku iba yiyo yonke imisebenzi yethu yokufumana iindlela zohambo kunye nezokhenketho zokuzalwa ngokutsha. Kwixa elizayo, oku inkqubo yokuhlaziya kuthetha ukuba iinkokheli zokhenketho, kwicandelo likarhulumente nakwabucala, kuyakufuneka bayamkele into yokuba umhlaba wethu utshintshile, kwaye bayakudinga ukufumana iindlela ezintsha nezobuchule zokuhamba ukusuka ekumiseni phantse lonke ukhenketho uye kwikhefu kwaye emva koko ume kwikhefu ukuvuselela.

Ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile umsebenzi wengcali yezengqondo uKubler-Ross kunye nezigaba zakhe ezintlanu zokufa zinokukufundisa okuninzi kushishino lokhenketho. UKubler-Ross uthethe ngala manqanaba mahlanu njengala:

1) Ukukhanyela

2) Umsindo

3) Ukuxoxa

4) Uxinzelelo

5) Ukwamkelwa

Umzi mveliso wokhenketho nokhenketho ayingomntu endaweni yoko ubunjwe zizigidi zabantu. Ukanti ubukhulu becala la manqanaba mahlanu adityaniswe nenqanaba lesithandathu endiza kulibiza ngokuba "luhlaziyo" lubonisa okuninzi okuye kwafunyanwa ziinkokeli zolu shishino. Njengakwimeko yokusweleka komhlobo okanye isalamane, sibonile ukubonakaliswa kokukhanyela. Kubekho utyekelo lwabaninzi lokukholelwa ukuba siza kubuyela kwinto esinokuthi “yinto eqhelekileyo”. Inyani yile yokuba nangona ukhenketho kunye nokhenketho luza kuqhubeka into eyayingazukubuya. Kuya kufuneka siyamkele into yokuba eli shishini liza kwahluka.

Njengakwimeko yokusweleka, uninzi kumzi mveliso lukhethe ukungazinanzi iimpazamo zabo endaweni yoko babonakalise umsindo wabo besola abanye. Abanye "banokuba ngabapolitiki, uluntu, okanye imo yezulu. Ukugxeka abanye akusombululi iingxaki kodwa kusibangela ukuba sichithe amathuba amatsha.

Uninzi lweshishini lokhenketho kunye nokhenketho nalo ligqithile kwimvakalelo yokubonana. Babenethemba lokuba ngokwenza isaphulelo kumaxabiso okanye ngokwenza izinto zentengiso, uluntu luya kubuya ngokulula. Nangona ezi zixhobo zokuthengisa zinokuba nazo (okanye ziya kuba nazo) iimpembelelo ezithile, kufuneka zibonwe yile nto ziyiyo: zizixhobo zentengiso ezingasibuyiseli ngomlingo kwinto ebiyiyo. Njengakwimeko yesingqisho se-nursery, u-Humpty Dumpty, siwile kakhulu, kwaye akukho mntu unokuphinda akubuyise kwakhona.

Ngelishwa, oku kuqonda kukhokelele uninzi kumzi mveliso wezokhenketho ukuba anikezele, afune amanye amashishini okanye abonise imeko yokudakumba ngokubaleka izinto eziyinyani. Ezokhenketho ayingomntu ofileyo; lushishino oluqulathe abantu abaninzi bokudala. Oku kuthetha ukuba singagqitha nje ekwamkeleni ubunyani bethu ukuya kwinqanaba lesithandathu, inqanaba esinokuthi "luhlaziyo nohlaziyo."

Ishishini lokhenketho nokhenketho linamandla kwaye linakho ukuguqula "oko bekukho" ibe yinto entsha "ezakuba yintoni." Njengakwimeko yentaka yasentsomini yasePhoenix efumaneka kwintsomi yamaGrike, ukhenketho nalo luyakwazi ukunyuka kuthuthu lwezoqoqosho luze lwenze ishishini elitsha nelinomdla.

Ukukunceda uye ngaphaya kokulila ukuya kwimeko yokuhlaziya iiTidbits zoKhenketho unikezela ngezi ngcebiso zilandelayo.

Veza umbono oqinisekileyo wethemba. Ezokhenketho zisekwe kukuzithemba kwaye sisiphi isimo sengqondo sokubetha Sukulila ngenxa yokulahlekelwa kwakho, kodwa endaweni yoko gxininisa iinkqubo ezintsha kunye nemibono. Bonisa abathengi bakho kunye nabathengi bakho icala elitsha kwishishini lakho.

Musa ukoyika ukuzama izimvo ezintsha. Uninzi lweeparadigms ezindala zifile, ke khawukhuphe izimvo zakho ezindala kwaye uzibandakanye nokucinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi. Vumela umbono wakho ukuba ubhabhe kwaye ukhangele izisombululo ezitsha kunye nobuchule kwiingxaki ezindala.

Fika ngaphaya kolawulo. Iteyiphu ebomvu ngakumbi iyacotha ukuhlaziywa. Yenza ukuba oorhulumente babeke ezantsi izicwangciso zabo. Olona cwangciso lubalaseleyo lwenziwe kwinqanaba lendawo. Sebenzisa urhulumente, iphondo, okanye amanqanaba esizwe ukuseta imigangatho encinci kwaye unike amabhunga endawo, amashishini kunye nenkululeko inkululeko yokudala ukuqala kwezokhenketho kunye nezisombululo.

Khumbula ukuba ishishini lokhenketho njengomzimba womntu linamalungu amaninzi kwaye xa umntu egula, yonke inkqubo iyagula. Umzi mveliso wokhenketho uhlala uqhekeka kangangokuba kungabikho zinto zibalulekileyo. Umzekelo, yokhuseleko kufuneka ibandakanye yonke imiba yohambo lwaselwandle ukusukela ngexesha umgibeli emka ekhaya ade abuyele ekhaya. Oko kuthetha nje ukubiza nje ezimbalwa: iinkonzo zeeteksi, iigaraji zokupaka, iiterminal zomoya, izibuko lezothutho, izikhululo zegesi, iivenkile zokutyela, kunye neendawo zokuhlala kufuneka zisebenze kwikhonsathi. Ukwenza indibaniselwano yamacandelo asebenzisanayo ayizukuba lula, kodwa ngaphandle kokuba kukho iiprothokholi ezintsha eziphuhlisiweyo kumanqanaba amancinci, i-mezzo, kunye ne-macro eli shishini liza kusuka kwingxaki liye kwelinye.

Khathalela abanye ngokuzikhathalela. Ukuhamba kunokuba nzima emzimbeni. Qiniseka ukuba usempilweni ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni ukuze ukwazi ukuphatha iindwendwe zakho ngononophelo kunye nokhathalelo ezifanele zona.

Ukubonelela ngolwazi oluhlaziyiweyo noluchanekileyo kubantu abahamba ngaphaya kwemida baqiniseke ukuba bayazi ukuba zeziphi izithintelo ezisenokuba zikhona. Khumbula ukuba izithintelo zokuhamba zinokutshintsha phantse kwangoko. Ukunika ulwazi lwayizolo akuthethi nje ukuba iindwendwe zakho zisemngciphekweni, kodwa uya kuphulukana nethemba labo kwiminyaka ezayo.

Uluntu kufuneka luthathe isigqibo sokuba lufuna kangakanani ukhenketho kwaye luhlobo luni lwemveliso abayifunayo. Zininzi kakhulu iindawo zokhenketho apho kukho ukunqongophala kokulungelelana nentsebenziswano phakathi kweshishini lokhenketho kunye nabantu abaninzi abahlala kuloo ndawo. Eli hlabathi litsha le-post-Coronavirus livumela iinkokheli zasekuhlaleni kunye nabantu abashishini ukuba baphuhlise umnqophiso omtsha kunye nabahlali boluntu lwabo.

Khumbula ukuba igama elithi ukubuk 'iindwendwe lihambelana negama elithi isibhedlele. Isibhedlele siyayikhathalela imizimba yethu kwaye iindwendwe ziyathetha nomphefumlo. Kwilizwe lokubuk 'iindwendwe akukho nto inceda ekunyangeni ingxaki kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, isimo sengqondo esingenziwa kwaye ubonise abantu ukuba banokuthemba ukuba uyakwenza le nto uthi uza kuyenza. Akukho nto itshabalalisa ukuthembeka njengokuthembisa ngaphezulu. Ukuba uthembisa ukuyenza, yenze ke!

Cinga kwimacro kodwa wenze kwimicro. Ukhenketho alufani nje kuphela ngokwelizwe kodwa nangaphakathi kwamazwe, kwaye ithi. Kweli hlabathi litsha lokhenketho oorhulumente abaphakathi banokubeka imigangatho yesizwe, kodwa ukuphunyezwa kwabo kufanele kube kwinqanaba lendawo. Kweli hlabathi litsha lasemva koCvid-19 ishishini lezokhenketho alinakho ukubonelela ngolawulo olusembindini oluthintela ubuchule bomntu ngamnye. Umxube omtsha kuya kufuneka wenziwe apho uluntu luqinisekiswa ngemigangatho yesizwe kodwa izinto zangaphakathi kushishino zinokusebenzisa indlela yokuqonda efanayo ukutolika le migangatho ukuhlangabezana neemeko zengingqi.

Musa ukulwa iimfazwe zayizolo. Umzi mveliso wezokhenketho awuthathelwa ngqalelo ngenxa yokuba sonke sikhethe ukungazinaki izilumkiso ezininzi, ukusukela kude xa uMongameli wase-US u-George Bush wathetha ngo-2005 elumkisa ngelokuba ubhubhane wehlabathi usondele. Nangona kufuneka kuqala sisebenze ukubuyisela ushishino lokhenketho kunye nezokhenketho, asinakho ukungahoyi izoyikiso ezizayo. Ulawulo lomngcipheko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uzilungiselele iingxaki esinethemba lokuba azinakuze zenzeke.

Xa kunokwenzeka, khangela iimarike ezintsha zemveliso yakho yokhenketho. Umzekelo, ukuba ishishini lakho lokhenketho lisekwe kwimarike yokuhamba ixesha elide, jonga uhlobo oluthile lokhenketho olufutshane okanye ukhenketho lwasekhaya. Thatha indawo yokuhlala ukuya kwinqanaba elitsha nge "play-stay-cations" apho abantu bajonge kwihotele yendawo kwaye baxhonywa.

Unyaka ka-2020 uzakuba ngowona mceli mngeni kwimbali yokhenketho. Kula maxesha alinga, ishishini lokhenketho kunye nokhenketho liya kufuna ukuba nobuchule kunye nokuyila kungekuphela nje ukuze uphile kodwa kunye nokuphumelela.

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