(eTN) - Ukufumana imvelaphi yoSuku lweValentine sibuyela umva ixesha kuBukhosi baseRoma apho umhla we-14 kaFebruwari ekuqaleni yayiyiholide yokuhlonipha uJuno uKumkanikazi woothixo baseRoma kunye noothixokazi kunye noThixokazi wabasetyhini kunye nomtshato.
UMlawuli uKlawudiyo II (268 – 270), nokwabizwa ngokuba nguClaudius the Cruel, wayethanda ukuqalisa iimfazwe eziphalaza igazi nezingathandekiyo awayezifunela amadoda amaninzi. Iinzame zakhe zokugaya zaba yimfazwe engaphumelelanga kuba amadoda ayefuna ukuhlala neentsapho zawo kunye nabathandekayo. Ukuze bafikelele “kwindoda phezulu” walurhoxisa lonke unxibelelwano nemitshato.
Umfundisi waseRoma, uSaint Valentine, waqhubeka etshata izibini ngokuphula ngokuthe ngqo uMlawuli. Xa uKlawudiyo wafumanisayo, uValentine wabanjwa, warhuqelwa entolongweni waza wagwetywa. Bekulindeleke ukuba abethwe ngamagqudu ade afe aze anqunyulwe intloko nge-14 kaFebruwari.
Ngexesha lokuvalelwa kwakhe, uSt. Valentine wazama ukuhlala onwabile kwaye abantu abancinci awayebatshate beza kumtyelela entolongweni, bemhlamba ngeentyatyambo kunye namanqaku.
Omnye weendwendwe zakhe yayiyintombi yomgcini-ntolongo owayevunyelwe ukuba atyelele uValentine kwisisele sakhe. Ihleli yaye incokola kangangeeyure, eli bhinqa liselula lakhuthaza uSt. Valentine ukuba aqhubeke esenza imitshato ngokufihlakeleyo.
Ngomhla wayecwangciselwe ukuba anqunyulwe intloko, washiya umhlobo wakhe inqaku elibulela ubuhlobo bakhe kunye nokunyaniseka kwakhe, kwaye kwasayinwa, "Uthando oluvela kwiValentine yakho." Umhla wawungoFebruwari 14, 269 AD.
Ngoku minyaka le ngolu suku, abantu bakhumbula kwaye batshintshiselana ngemiyalezo yothando ngoSuku lweValentine; UMlawuli uKlawudiyo ukhunjulwa njengowazama ukuma endleleni yothando.
I-Global Romance Trivia:
E-US, umtshato lishishini elikhulu. Phantse ama-6,200 emisitho yenziwa ngosuku kwi-2.3 yezigidi zizonke ngonyaka. Kulo lonke, imitshato eyi-123,300 yenziwa eNevada ngo-2002.
Ubudala obuphakathi kumtshato wokuqala wabasetyhini yiminyaka eyi-25.3 ngelixa mna ndineminyaka eyi-26.9.
Umbuso kunye izinga eliphezulu lomtshato kwi US yi Idaho kunye 60 ekhulwini; INew York inelona nani lisezantsi kuma-50 ekhulwini
KumaXesha Aphakathi, amadoda namabhinqa aselula ayezoba amagama esityeni ukuze abone ukuba iza kuba ngoobani na iivalentines zabo. La magama babewanxiba kwimikhono iveki enye. Ukunxiba intliziyo yakho kumkhono wakho ngoku kuthetha ukuba kulula kwabanye abantu ukwazi ukuba uziva njani.
EWales amacephe othando ngamaplanga aqingqwa aze anikwe njengezipho ngoFebruwari 14. Amacephe ahonjiswe ngeentliziyo, izitshixo namakroba athetha “ukuvula intliziyo yakho.”
Kwamanye amazwe, ukuba ibhinqa eliselula lifumana isipho sempahla kumfana osemtsha - kwaye usigcina isipho, oko kuthetha ukuba uya kutshata naye.
Umtshato, uthando kunye nothando ziyaqhubeka zithandwa - nangona kukho iimfazwe kunye nokudodobala koqoqosho. Xa into yokwenyani ingafumaneki, abaphandi bothando baphendukela kwiincwadi zothando, kwaye iintsomi zothando zivelise i-1.37 yeebhiliyoni zeedola kwiintengiso ngo-20006.
Iintsomi zothando zithengise zonke iindidi zentengiso ngo-2006, ngaphandle kwezenkolo/ezikhuthazayo
Amashumi alithoba anesithathu eepesenti kubo bonke abafundi beRomance ngabasetyhini kwaye inye kuphela kwindoda engama-50 efunde inoveli yeRomance ngo-2002.
Nangona uthando lwenza ihlabathi lijikeleze, uhlolisiso olwenziwa yiPew Internet kunye neAmerican Life Project Online Dating Survey (2005), lwafumanisa ukuba uninzi lwabantu abaselula eMelika “aluzichazi njengolufuna abantu abathandana nabo.”
Uninzi lwabantu abadala baseMelika (i-56 ekhulwini okanye i-113 yezigidi zabantu) abekho kwimarike yokuthandana (batshatile okanye bahlala betshatile); kunjalo, inani elinokubakho abafuna ukuthandana liselikhulu.
Bangama-43 ekhulwini abantu abadala (izigidi ezingama-87) abathi abangatshatanga. Phakathi kwazo zonke singles, nje 16 ekhulwini bathi ngoku bafuna iqabane yothando. Oku kufikelela kwisi-7 ekhulwini sabantu abadala. Abanye 55 ekhulwini singles ingxelo akukho umdla esebenzayo ekufuneni iqabane ukuthandana; oku kuyinyaniso ingakumbi kubafazi, abo baye bangabahlolokazi okanye baqhawule umtshato, kunye singles abadala.
Musa Isaphulelo kwabangatshatanga
Kuthetha ntoni konke oku kumathuba oshishino? Iindawo ekufikelwa kuzo, iihotele, iindawo zokutyela, kunye nezinto ezinomtsalane kufuneka ziqonde ukuba uthethathethwano, imitshato kunye neeholide zomtshato zibalulekile kwaye zibalulekile iimarike - nangona kunjalo, ukugxila kuphela kwisibini kunye nosapho kuphelisa isabelo esikhulu semarike.
USuku lweValentine lusabhiyozelwa – kodwa ngamanye amaxesha “olunye olubalulekileyo” ayingomlingane, okanye iqabane. Kodwa, njengoko uSanta Valentine wafumanisayo- eyona nto yonwabele “nomhlobo osenyongweni.”
